The More Things Change

…the more they stay the same.

Something about this photo

rang a bell, and I went looking through my archives, and found this, from June 2006.

Apart from the fact that Rilla at six weeks was about the same size as her new baby brother at two days, nothing much has changed, eh?

Boy Crazy

(Psst, sweet friend, see what's on the arm of the couch? The postman
was walking up to our mailbox with your package at the very moment
Scott, baby, and I pulled into the driveway. It's beautiful. Rilla
approves wholeheartedly. Thank you so very much!)

And one last shot, decidedly less than flattering but a little gift for my Twitter pals:

Put the ding-dang camera away, honey, so I can eat my PUDDING!

(I didn't know this photo existed when I was twittering about
pudding this morning. When I uploaded the photos this afternoon, I saw
it and laughed and laughed. Scott must have snapped that during the one
brief moment in time when the pudding was actually still in the bowl.
I'm sure I was licking the dish clean five minutes later.)

Yes, Exactly

Film critic David Denby, writing of his experience revisiting, in his forties, the Great Books core courses he had taken as a freshman at Columbia University thirty years earlier:

I was reading seriously, reading Homer, Plato,
Aristotle, Sophocles, all the Greeks. But I needed more time. Life got
in the way—a good life, but in the way. I had always known it
would, but I was determined not to rope off my school adventure, not to
become a hermit, anything medieval or cloistered, but to remain a
modern middle-class man, living my life as normally as possible. As if
I had any choice! There were days when I wanted to be free just to
study, to eat at any hour and sleep whenever I wanted to, unshaven and
raw as an eighteen-year-old—and then the little one, Thomas, would take
my hand and lead me into his room to show me something he had drawn,
pulling me away from Plato, and I was exasperated but grateful, because
a child's hand is like nothing else on earth.

No News Is, Um, Boring?

My traffic has been through the roof these past few days, and while I'm sure much of that is due to the magnetic allure of Angelica's milk-white shoulders,
it dawned on me that a sizable number of the hits are from friends
dropping by to see if there's any baby news. This became all the more
apparent when I switched the glitchy Twitter widget (which scrolled my
tweets in the sidebar) to a just-plain-Twitter-button, and the outclick
rate to my Twitter page quadrupled. May I just say it is awfully sweet to know how much y'all care? 🙂

But there's nothing to report. Great checkup at the OB on Friday.
Baby's got plenty of fluid, excellent heart rate, is a happy camper. If
nothing happens before Tuesday, I'll go back for another round of
checking up.

BUT SOMETHING IS BOUND TO HAPPEN BEFORE TUESDAY.

Ahem.

Meanwhile, my mama is spoiling me rotten, doing all my household
work PLUS beautifying the backyard in the most magnificent way. She is
a treasure, my mother, let me tell you. My daddy is pretty swell
too—and it's nice of him to part with my mom for two weeks so she could
come entertain my younguns and do my dishes and fill me full of
cornbread and ham.

Anyway, all's well, and I'm in good hands, and we're all hoping this
little person decides to join the party very soon. As in: today would
be nice!

Lilypie Expecting a baby Ticker

Bosom Buddies

During the long months of this pregnancy, I have been blessed with
the companionship of a few special friends. We used to see each other
only once a month, but lately we've been able to get together once or
even twice a week, and how eagerly I have looked forward to these sweet
moments of fellowship with women whose joy in motherhood outstrips even
my own!

I realized today that our time together is drawing to a close…very soon (very, very
soon, do you hear me?) it will be time to go our separate ways, and we
shall see each other only once a year or thereabouts. Ah, dear friends,
whatever will I do without you? Fortunately I happened to have my
camera in my bag at our visit today, so I was able to capture a few
treasured snapshots of these fair and tender ladies I have come to know
so well.

Here they are all together with their precious infants, the whole beautiful bunch of them. Aren't they lovely?

So serene, so gentle, so rouged.

Angelica2
I
have learned so much from these ladies. For example, here I am about to
give birth to my sixth child, and yet until I met Angelica would you
believe I had no idea it was proper to blow-dry one's hair to a
silky sheen, tie back a few glossy locks with a ribbon, don a ruffly
off-the-shoulder gown, and apply several coats of blusher before
sitting down to breastfeed one's baby?

This is going to make a real difference in my next post-partum
experience, let me tell you. Angelica always looks so calm and well
rested. I realize now that my customary get-up of hastily scrunchied
ponytail, spit-up-stained T-shirt, and no makeup whatsoever has been at
the root of the exhaustion I typically experience during those first
weeks with a new baby. LOOK beautiful and you'll FEEL beautiful is Angelica's motto.

Bettina
Elspeth
has a similar philosophy about pregnancy. I understand now that in
banning white clothing from my wardrobe several sticky-fingered
toddlers ago, I have been depriving myself of a kind of delicate
radiance that would surely have blessed the child in my womb and all in
our presence. And that band of pink ribbon below her bosom—how
beautifully it offsets her the rosy glow of her lips. Every word that
comes out of a mouth like that is pure honey, I suspect. (I can't say
for sure, because demure Elspeth never utters a word. But you can see
just by looking at her that she is full of warm and soothing thoughts.)

Swoozie2
As
for our ringleted chum Swoozie, I admit I worry a little about her
sometimes. Those raw bruises on her cheek…the dark rings around her
eyes…her habit of staring off into the distance, lost in thought,
bottle-feeding her infant without even looking at him…I have some
concerns about her home life. But she has never uttered a word of
complaint, so perhaps I'm mistaken. Possibly she is only thinking about
when to get her next perm.

Oh, dear friends, how grateful I am for the many times you have
entertained me while I waited for our obstetrician to amble into the
exam room! It is very good of you, all of you, to have kept such a
patient vigil with me as the long, long minutes ticked by.

You will be sorely missed.

A Joke Only an 8-Months-Pregnant Friend Could Make

Yesterday, during Rose's piano class, my cell phone buzzed with the information that Alice
was IMing me. I thumb-tapped back to her: "Hi! Am sitting in piano,"
knowing she'd know that meant I was answering from the phone's tiny
keyboard and she should expect truncated responses to her half of the
conversation.

"Of course!" she wrote back. "It's the only piece of furniture big enough to hold you!"

I laughed so hard it's a wonder my water didn't break.

Lilypie Expecting a baby Ticker

Greek (And Latin!)

Updated to add: lots of useful links & recommendations for both
Latin and Greek materials are popping up in the comments—don't miss 'em!

Kathy asked,

Wasn’t Jane learning Greek at one point (or maybe she is
still)? I searched the archives and didn’t see anything. When you have
a moment could you please share what she used? My 11yo daughter is just
dying to learn Greek and I’m starting my search for a
program/book/guide here. Thanks so much!

It was Rose who was (and remains, in intermittent flares) on fire for Greek a few years back. She made her way through the first two levels of Hey, Andrew! Teach Me Some Greek
and quite enjoyed them. As I recall, Jane too whipped through the
primer to learn the Greek alphabet. Both girls liked the format of the
Hey Andrew materials, which were very, very simple and bare
bones. (The first levels focused primarily on mastering the alphabet.)
Looking at the website now, I see they've redesigned the covers but the
interior page samples look the same.

I would say that I was happy with Hey Andrew as a gentle
introduction to the alphabet, with one large caveat (and this is rather
delicate, and I hope won't sound insensitive—bear in mind that I'm the
mother of a five-year-old with only semi-intelligible speech, so I
really am sensitive to the challenges of speech impediments): the
pronunciation CD that came with the workbooks was voiced by a speaker
with a pronounced lisp. And for a foreign language program, that really
is a bit of a problem. I had to keep correcting Rose's pronunciation of
"epthilon," and "thigma," for example. At first I wondered if the
classical Greek S-sound really was meant to be a TH, but the speaker
lisped in English as well, so I think it was just an aspect of her
manner of speaking.

Jane has so enjoyed Classical Academic Press's Latin for Children materials that I'm quite eager to get a look at their new Greek for Children
series when it comes out. Mind you, CAP's program is extremely
workbooky and therefore quite out of character with our unschooly,
loosy-goosy, CM-inspired but not CM-structured atmosphere, but our
language studies have been a consistently fun and challenging pursuit
over the last several years, and absent an immersion experience (which
I cannot provide for Greek or Latin!), a kind of methodical, steady
study is pretty much the only way to gain absence [edited: "gain absence"?? I plead preggo brain] master a new language.
Our path to Latin works for us. (Rose actually prefers the
even-more-schooly structure of Memoria Press's Latina Christiana
program, so that's what she uses, and Jane uses LFC. Beanie absorbs by
exposure to the vocab CDs the other girls listen to. For that matter,
so do I!)

Hope this helps at least as a starting point, Kathy. If anyone else
has a more substantive review of Greek materials, please do chime in or
link to a post!

P.S. Here's a fun video from Steve Demme: Learn the Greek Alphabet in Ten Minutes.

Related posts:
What the Tide Brought In
All Roads Lead to Greece

2008 in Books

I didn't read as many books last year as I usually do, because the
lion's share of my reading time was devoured by matters related to the
presidential election. 2009 is already off to a better start: am
halfway through my third novel already. (One of them, The Uncommon Reader—a
delightful read, by the way—was very short, a novella really. Also, my
mother has arrived to help with the baby, whenever the baby decides to
make an appearance, and so as far as my children are concerned, I am
chopped liver. It is lovely, sometimes, to be chopped liver.)

Anyway: 2008's reading list. Several of the books I enjoyed most were the handcrafty sort.

I count these as "books read" because I really did read them, cover
to cover, eagerly slurping down every single syllable of text and
caption. Maybe this year—in the latter half, because I expect my arms
to be happily full for a while—I can put some of this reading into
practice.

As for fiction, most of the novels I read were children's books:
some old favorites, read aloud to the kids, and some first-time reads
for me, so I could discuss them with Jane. Of the latter, I most
enjoyed Beth Hilgartner's A Murder for Her Majesty,
a middle-grade suspense tale set in Elizabethan times, about a young
girl forced to hide in a boys' choir after her father is murdered by
court rivals, and Scott O'Dell's The King's Fifth,
another fine piece of historical fiction, this one about a young
Spanish mapmaker whose quest for the fabled Seven Cities of Cibola
leads him into a hornet's nest of intrigue and danger.

I read some excellent nonfiction this year. I've already raved about Alice Gunther's inspiring Haystack Full of Needles and the transformative Outside Lies Magic by John Stilgoe. Another standout was Neil Perrin's collection of essays about lesser-known literary gems, A Reader's Delight.
A sweet friend sent me a copy for my birthday last year, and I savored
the essays one by one throughout the year. (I wrote about Perrin's A Child's Delight here.)
Both the Perrin books have added a column full of enticing titles to my
TBR list. One of my reading plans for 2009 is to treat myself to some
of those books.

Another interesting nonfiction book I read in '08 was Elizabeth Warnock Fernea's A Street in Marrakesh.
I met the author at a neighborhood Christmas party a year ago; she was
the mother of the host, Laura Fernea, who appears in the book as a
thirteen-year-old girl. In the late 70s, the Fernea family lived in
Marrakesh for a year. It was Elizabeth's husband's work that brought
them there, but the book focuses on the domestic scene and Elizabeth's
struggles to get to know her Muslim neighbors. Gradually, awkwardly,
connections are formed and Elizabeth is invited into other women's
homes, and her yearning to see the real lives of her neighbors—not just
the blank faces presented to tourists—is fulfilled. The book is a
fascinating look at a culture so tremendously different from America's,
but it is more than a travel book: it's a moving, honest account of
Elizabeth's vulnerability and determination. Her efforts to cross the
'stranger in a strange land' barrier are sometimes rebuffed, sometimes
embarrassing, but she presses on nonetheless. I was hoping for another
opportunity to chat with Elizabeth, but the annual Christmas caroling
party didn't happen this year. Maybe next year. (As I write, I'm struck
by the irony of my own shyness—here I am waiting for the big
neighborhood party rather than making the kind of personal overture
Elizabeth herself would never have shrunk from!)

There were other good books on my list in 2008, but I can smell my
mother's good cornbread just about ready to come out of the oven. I'd
like to say I'll write about the rest later, but we all know how
unlikely that is. Unless this baby tarries another week, in which case
maybe I'll have all too much time to blog!

What the Song Looks Like

A commenter (named, delightfully, Jane Wiley) on my recent Signing Time post asked:

Melissa…have you heard about “Sign Art” the interpretation of music through sign language…
Sign Art is a beautiful way to see a picture… of a song… through the interpretation in sign language…

Several years ago, Scott called me to the TV to watch a clip from a
Pearl Jam concert DVD he was watching. "Trust me," he said. "You're
going to love this."

As usual, he was right. I stood transfixed as a young ASL
interpreter accompanied the band in a performance of "Given to Fly."
Her movements are lovely and captivating, lifting the song itself to a
level of beauty I would never have associated with Pearl Jam.

I found the clip on YouTube so you can see for yourselves. (Parents
with younguns looking over your shoulders, be aware that Eddie Vedder
drops an F-bomb at minute 3:28—with a bit of sign language of his own).